Should women be expected to change their names when they marry?

buchichuYou really think it's that uncommon? It must be nice to be so idealistic.

I don't think it's uncommon at all, and that's exactly the problem. So I'll hold onto my ideals, I'll keep the faith, I'll fight the good fight, and maybe I'll make a difference in the end. I don't see how anyone can possibly justify condescending that.

*slow clap*

Replying to #22

If you do that a bit faster you will have time to make me a sandwich and do the washing.

^This.

As long as you don't beat my kid when I'm not looking.

tehuber1337I sincerely hope, for the sake of all that is good and holy in society, that you and your ilk never marry or procreate.

There are a lot of people way worse than me for you to hope don't pass on their genes. Get off your self proclaimed throne and bug them instead.

They shouldn't.Women <3

Their choice. If i was in a position in which the wife wouldn't want my name, I'd be ok with that. My name ain't that great anyways :P

Why cant a guy change his name to his wife's anyway? same principle. gene lines are better traced through mothers anyway

Because it's a tradition. It's traditionally the son who carries on his father's name. Of course, it meant a lot more back then. Nowadays, people couldn't care less about names

buchichu · #25As long as you don't beat my kid when I'm not looking.

I have never beat any child so why would I beat yours?

Nitemare_ Plague · #29Why cant a guy change his name to his wife's anyway? same principle. gene lines are better traced through mothers anyway

Since back in the good old days. Men use to be very business driven and brought home the majority of the money while the wife use to stay home and look after the children. This is why in japan, the men wanted young boys to carry on the name through the business and so many girls were give away or killed.

well now some homes have women bring home the most money. i see no issue in it

Nitemare_ Plague · #29Why cant a guy change his name to his wife's anyway? same principle. gene lines are better traced through mothers anyway

It depends on whose genes are stronger. How? I have no clue, but sometimes it just turns out that way. Following a persons genepool would take extensive study in both genders, cross referencing, intersecting, and bisecting most of the chromosomes. If we take c, a, g, t, or whatever letters part of the gene, then we could see who's who with hereditary physical appearances from the mother and father. But when a lady changes her name it really conflicts with her identity resulting in a crisis...I mean if I changed my name I would loose all of my previous self and try to make this newer name more suitable for my entire life.Case closed if two people are willing to make amends, then why not just combine the whole thing. It makes up for a rather short name.

someirishkid · #30Because it's a tradition. It's traditionally the son who carries on his father's name. Of course, it meant a lot more back then. Nowadays, people couldn't care less about names

That runs along the path of kingdoms and empires, which reminds me of how royalty was only perceived as high status among men. Running a generation of the royal blood line must have been so eager to keep the throne and high ranking among the general commoners.I guess that rule still applies if the man of the house wants to remain king, but that's just despotism or monarchy to say.

Nitemare_ Plague · #33well now some homes have women bring home the most money. i see no issue in it

Who said there is an issue.

Yes, just as they should be expected to make my sandwiches.I need not justify this.

Nitemare_ Plague · #26There are a lot of people way worse than me for you to hope don't pass on their genes. Get off your self proclaimed throne and bug them instead.

Well, those people aren't being self-righteous about it here. If I could bug them about it, I would. And it's not the genes I'm worried about, it's the mindset. Seriously, drop the radical feminist crap. It doesn't make you edgy or cool, it makes you a stupid sheep.

Nitemare_ Plague · #29Why cant a guy change his name to his wife's anyway? same principle. gene lines are better traced through mothers anyway

I have no idea what you're trying to say about gene lines, but I did say earlier that it doesn't matter which of a couple should change their name.I read this article today, and it nicely sums up a few points. I don't know what the statistics are like for America, but I doubt they're much better (if at all).

The chances that children will reach the age of 15 without two parents at home has almost doubled within a generation. About 12 per cent of kids now start out life without a dad in the home.Family breakdown is a risk factor for children. About one in five suffer serious adverse consequences. One of the issues is that conflict between the parents doesn't necessarily end on separation. It often just changes what people argue about, as any family lawyer will tell you. Financial stress is another issue. Going from one household to two makes both households poorer, even with all the extra financial support that government provides.Then there is the increased risk of child abuse. The harsh reality is that children are much more at risk of sexual abuse from men who are not biologically related to them than from their own dads. Add to that the other risk factors of separation: numerous moves, as mum and the children navigate the sometimes insecure private rental market; father-absence, which for some children represents a long-term grief; and the difficulties that stepfamilies can experience.

http://www.smh.com.au/opinion/society-and-culture/marriage-at-the-heart-of-a-crucial-commitment-to-children-20110907-1jxr5.html

This is why in japan, the men wanted young boys to carry on the name through the business and so many girls were give away or killed.
[/quote]China. because families there are only allowed two children at most (used to be one)

I'm absolutely siding with the folks who'd say, "stop this ancient requirement that the woman has to be the one who adopts the man's last name when they marry". Especially if the mom IS the one bringing home the bacon so to speak & the husband is a no good bum who probably even beats her up whenever he feels like it & worse, when he's drunk.Human society should drop the whole stupid notion that a wife is the husband's possession when they get married. Heck as I've said elsewhere before, we should abolish marriage itself & let us just be with whoever we want at a time.As for child rearing... well that's another can of worms.

Cahos Rahne Veloza"stop this ancient requirement that the woman has to be the one who adopts the man's last name when they marry".
Human society should drop the whole stupid notion that a wife is the husband's possession when they get married.
Heck as I've said elsewhere before, we should abolish marriage itself & let us just be with whoever we want at a time.

it's not a requirement...
we have
then don't get married, stay single. marriage is a choice (speaking about the west here).